I am an author, speaker, and coach who helps individuals and organizations find reconciliation, rest, and recovery so they can be free to excel in their purpose and potential.
Here is a confidential description of the book:
Words have power. In the beginning, God created, then God spoke. Just as God’s words have power to shape creation, so too, human words have power to shape relation. Most people are all too familiar with the heart-wrenching pain of depleting conversations that destroy healthy connections and dismantle community. Author, Debbie Rarick believes people are searching for ways to better relate, while all along holding the solution right under their nose. This book uncovers two strategies and three steps that will equip people to loose their tongues and harness its power to build up, benefit, and bless all with whom they relate.
Introduction –In this age of technology we have more ways to communicate than ever, yet, we are often less in touch on a personal level. Often, human souls ache for closer and better communication. You can master everyday conversating by implementing three steps to simplify conversations, strengthen connections, and solidify community.
Part 1: The Hurt –Much human effort and energy has been expended toward finding a way to lesson pain, or to escape it all together. The search to relieve or avoid pain is monumental whether the ache is essential, regarding the human spirit; internal, regarding the mind or emotions; physical, regarding the body; or external, regarding situations or relationships. One source of pain is from communication troubles within relationships. There is not one person who has lived pain free relationally. Everyone is familiar with the hurt that is all too common to the human experience. Escaping one’s hurts simply amounts to delaying, spreading, and aggravating the pain.
Part 2: The Hope - Pain in one area of life can cause residual pain in any of the other areas of a person’s life. However, just as physical pain can be rooted in and connected to relational strife or struggle, so too relational health can extend peace rather than stress to the physical body. One simple solution to this universal problem is to find a source of alleviating conversational pain, while also teaching how to intentionally craft conversations in a way that builds up, benefits and blesses, rather than wounding those involved.
Part 3: The Help – Healthy conversating can be done by learning and incorporating two strategies and three simple steps to transform your every day conversations into times of building up, benefiting and blessing. Rather than depending on others to change the conversational and relational atmosphere, now you can choose to impact conversations for the good of everyone involved. The wait is over. These three steps are couched between two biblical strategies that are sure to empower a strong secure starting point, and to equip for a skilled and stylish finish. Relating and conversating with both heaven and earth has never had less pressure. The weight is off.
Afterward - When we take a closer look at changing our communication practices, we understand that it will take time and effort. Intentionality on the part of the reader is necessary in several areas. First, the reader will have to be intentional about following the strategies and steps of Outside Words. Next, the reader will have to be purposeful in engaging other people into discussion about and the practice of Outside Words. Lastly, the reader will have to be sure to utilize practical tools to help them as they incorporate Outside Words into their personal journey. This chapter will equip and motivate readers take intentional steps forward.